No — you are the one who followed what a doctor said you should do for your child, what was standard to do for your child, what a large number of other parent’s had done for their child without a problem. This wasn’t an experimental procedure. This was the standard practice and you couldn’t possibly have known what would happen. I know there’s nothing I can say to comfort you or relieve your pain at the loss of your children. I know that parents blame themselves for everything that happen’s to their children but truly, you did only what a doctor, who was supposed to have the knowledge, said to do for your child. It’s heinous that anyone would even suggest that you are to blame and the fact that they don’t seem to understand that it’s not okay to bring more pain into the life of someone who has lost a child speaks to the kind of person they are not the kind you are.